九十年代某个冬天的清晨，第一次读傲慢与偏见的小说，
一口气读完，那时，我刚上初中，不懂爱情
九十年代某个星期六的下午，第一次看到BBC版傲慢与偏见的电视剧，
盼了又盼，那时，我还是初中，尽管已经看过了小说，仍然不懂爱情
十年以后的前两天，翻看了2005电影版的傲慢与偏见，连续看了两遍。
渐渐地， 那些散落在角落里的情绪又慢慢聚拢过来
那份单纯，美好的向往又悠悠地爬上嘴角，眉梢
仿佛，触摸到了泛黄的书页，
仿佛，回到了那个读小说的清晨，那个看戏剧的黄昏
依稀看见：一九九五年，达西先生的忧愁，伊丽莎白小姐的娇羞
十年了，弹指一挥间的十年，多少事情发生，多少故事被遗忘
微笑着转过头去，
看那些轻轻走开的人们，默默散开的过往，
回过头来，唯一不变的：二零零五年，达西先生的忧愁，伊丽莎白小姐的娇羞
他们的爱，在简.奥斯汀的笔下, 不紧不慢的发展，
碰到坎坷，遇到颠簸，
不合节拍，相互排斥，
却又更加有力的彼此靠近，
爱，跨越了身份，克服了偏见
把他们的手牵在了一起，心融在了一处
居然，就这样轻轻松松地走过了两百年。
如果可以把爱拟化为物，那么他们的爱是什么样的呢？
浓烈的酒？撕心的伤？飘来了，却又消散的花香？
嗯，不对， 不好，都不像。
在我看来，
他们的爱更像 ：雾影蒙蒙，晨曦初现的英格兰的清晨，芬芳的被青草包围，温暖的被阳光宠爱
他们的爱是潘柏莱庄园那处广阔而又清澈的湖水，印着蓝天，装着白云，干净，明朗
他们的爱是屹立在英格兰高地的岩石，坚定，执著，大气地应对时空
一个怎样的女子，写了怎样一部小说，承载了怎样一种爱恋，跨过了怎样一段社会变迁？
简.奥斯丁终身未婚，42岁的时候死于爱迪生氏症—一种肾上腺素分泌不足，从而导致疲劳，乏力的慢性死亡病症。我看过她的肖像，谈不上美貌娇羞，更算不得风华绝代。画中的她反而更加接近于一个平凡，娴静的淑女的模样，只是眉宇间藏着一分坚定和作家的敏感。
她是一个相貌普通的女子，但是她有着细腻的情感和不普通的才华，爱情的苦恼，爱情的甜美，爱情的踌躇，爱情的试探和爱情的坚贞在她笔下如清泉流动，扣人心弦。所以，这样的女子，应该有过爱恋吧。是的， 短暂而遗憾的爱情在她二十岁的时候来过-----。男主人公的名字叫做：汤姆.勒佛伊
“When Austen was twenty, Tom Lefroy, a nephew of neighbours, visited Steventon from December 1795 to January 1796. He had just finished a university degree and was moving to London to train as a barrister. Lefroy and Austen would have been introduced at a ball or other neighborhood social gathering, and it is clear from Austen's letters to Cassandra that they spent considerable time together: "I am almost afraid to tell you how my Irish friend and I behaved. Imagine to yourself everything most profligate and shocking in the way of dancing and sitting down together." The Lefroy family intervened and sent him away at the end of January. Marriage was impractical, as both Lefroy and Austen must have known. Neither had any money and he was dependent on a great-uncle in Ireland to finance his education and establish his legal career. If Tom Lefroy later visited Hampshire, he was carefully kept away from the Austens, and Jane Austen never saw him again.”
“在奥斯丁二十岁的时候，汤姆.勒佛耶，一个邻居家的侄子，在1795年底到1796年初拜访了斯蒂文顿。那时,他刚刚完成了大学学业搬到伦敦去做见习律师。勒佛耶和奥斯丁应该已经在邻里的社交舞会上被互相引见了，而且从奥斯丁给她姐姐卡桑卓的信中可以清楚的看到奥斯丁和勒佛耶非常满意彼此的陪伴，他们常常在一起：~把我和我的爱尔兰朋友之间的互动告诉你真让人感觉难为情。你真的无法想象我和他居然这样的跳舞，坐在一起谈天（我们之间的相处真让人吃惊，简直背叛了我的矜持）~（勒佛耶和奥斯丁的亲密关系可能被家人和朋友察觉）勒佛耶的家人干涉了二人的关系发展并且在 1796年一月底把勒佛耶送走了。勒佛耶和奥斯丁都知道婚姻是不现实的。他们都没有钱，勒佛耶靠着他爱尔兰的伯父支持完成了学业，而且将来还得靠这位伯父帮助他在律师业取得一席之地。就算汤姆.勒佛耶离开之后又回到汉普郡探望亲友，他的家人也尽量避免让他接触奥斯丁家族。 从此，简.奥斯丁再也没有见到汤姆.勒佛耶。”
这段刚刚发了芽，还没有来得及开花的爱恋被风吹雨打折了。
对于二十岁的简.奥斯丁来说，转瞬即逝的爱恋无疑成为她生命中最婉转，最惆怅的等待；性格坚持的她转而提起笔来，让爱情在虚拟的小说世界里尽情滋长，生根，发芽，开花，结果。所有浪漫的爱情都以结婚为终点，没有后续，这和作者本人没有经历婚姻生活有关。爱情是迷人的，可是在现实世界里等不来的爱情却令人绝望。奥斯丁的生命之烛在无可期望的等待中燃尽了，但是，她给世界留下了一段明朗而完满的爱情故事---名字叫做：傲慢与偏见。

“Any library is a good library that does not contain a volume by Jane Austen”, when this words about Jane Austen given by Mark Twin first came upon to me, I was, just in your expectation, a little bit surprised. Gradually, however, when I know more about the characteristics of her works, I think the judgement of Mark Twin makes sense in some degree. Especially after I have finished her work Pride and Prejudice and compared it with the contemporary production The Red and the Black written by Stendhal. Less reflection and exposure on social conflicts among different classes is a big pity for Austen’s works, as well as for the readers. Still, however, Austen’s unique interpretation towards marriage is the distinguished feature of her literary accomplishment. And I want to give some reflection on the different kinds of relationships and marriages in Pride and Prejudice.
Five different types of relationships or marriages, as far as I am concerned, are presented in this book.
The first type, undoubtedly, is the relationship between Jane and Mr. Bingley. They met at a party and almost fell in love with each other just after their first encounter. Bingley’s wealth and courtesy, Jane’s beauty and tenderness, and the similarities in their personality are all the factors that contribute to the relationship. So, though I believe, actually, there is some kind of love between the young lady and the gentleman, it is not the pure and true love, their combination is not for no intention but for some certain desire. So I would like to call their relationship as “Secular Love”.
Contrasting to the relationship between Jane and Mr. Bingley, the marriage between Charlotte and Mr.Collins is much less romantic, or no romance at all. One is the Cinderella in reality equipped with no prince, the other is a priest, old and ugly. Their marriage, of course, has no love but compromise. Even Elizabeth thinks “Charlotte the wife of Mr. Collins, was a most humiliating picture!” But what could she do? Just as she said, she is not romantic and she asks only a comfortable home, and this is within Mr. Collins ability. Comparing with being a 27-year-old burden to her family,at least for her, marrying Mr. Collins is the best choice. So as for them, I call “Rational Love” or rather------ “Rational Combination”.
Another couple is Mrs. Bennet and Mr. Bennet. Just in the first chapter, I wondered why two people with such different characteristics could live together for 23 years. The wonder disappeared when the explanation was offered by Austen in Chapter 42 about Mr. Bennet’s attitude towards his wife. Captivated by youth and beauty, he married her and very early in their marriage, after knowing the disposition of her, ended his affection and used her ignorance to contribute his amusement, having impropriety of his behavior as a husband. Neither for Mr. Bennet nor for Mrs. Bennet this marriage is quite fair or contented, but both of them should pay, and had already paid the bill of their “Hasty Love”.
Lydia’s relationship with Wickham, to some extent, is similar with her parents’. Mr. Bennet was captivated by the beauty of his wife and Lydia was fascinated by the handsome appearance of Wickham. Compared with her parents’ marriage, however, Lydia’s relationship with Wickham would only turn out a much more unpleasant one, for their marriage is based on the fulfillment of vanity and the desire of property. So I consider their relationship as “Orectic Incorporation”
And finally here comes the relationship between Elizabeth and Mr. Darcy. When I first finished the movie of Pride and Prejudice, I still wondered why there is a love flame between them. One is so proud and the other full of prejudice, but when I read more details about this work, the answer has emerged. “Love”, a word we are so familiar with, but what is love? In Austen’s work, I gradually know that love is not just as abstract as we often regard. Take Elizabeth, for example, her love for Daisy is based on two things: respect and gratitude. She respects his valuable qualities: nobility and kindness, and even Wickham had done something so bad to him and his sister, he still didn’t blame him before others or let him lose all dignity in public. Also, she is grateful to Mr. Darcy, for his love, for his forgiveness about her bad manners when she rejected him, for his help to her sister’s marriage and her family’s fame. And finally, these turned out her attachment, affection and love for him. As for Darcy, his attention to Elizabeth was first on her eyes, full of liveliness, thoughts and pursuits and unlike any other ladies, she is such a unique girl that she didn’t flatter him at all, so for him she is so extraordinary and attractive. And Elizabeth got his respect and love because of her own independence, liveliness and uniqueness. And I regard their relationship as “Spirit Love”.
Austen’s attitude towards marriage, love, status and property can still be used as a reference. Nowadays, fast food culture derives fast-food-style love, although we are in the era of fast changes, it’s better for us to love rationally and independently. Hope everyone has his real, unique love.